OK, so last semester in my human sexuality class I learned about one of the coming out steps for GLBT people. I was pondering, is this particular process similar to how otherkin or "weres" come out?
This theory outlines the coming out process as such:
1. Self realization (realizing you're different)
2. Acceptance to self that you're different
3. Telling close friend
4. Coming out to all
5. Pride stage
6. Integration - what was different about you is now a central part of your identity and not a "big deal."
Yes, no? If yes, what stage are you in?
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I believe so too, I find that to be true, but perhaps it is different for others here? I haven't told a lot of people I know, but I have told my friends and we're to the point where we even talk and joke about it.
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Shawn13 wrote:
OK, so last semester in my human sexuality class I learned about one of the coming out steps for GLBT people. I was pondering, is this particular process similar to how otherkin or "weres" come out?
This theory outlines the coming out process as such:
1. Self realization (realizing you're different)
2. Acceptance to self that you're different
3. Telling close friend
4. Coming out to all
5. Pride stage
6. Integration - what was different about you is now a central part of your identity and not a "big deal."
Yes, no? If yes, what stage are you in?
It's GLBT now? I can't keep up with that stuff. I remember before the T was even involved, and a short time when there were at least two Ts and an A.
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I think I'm about to stage 3. That's as far as I'm willing to go right now.
And there's nothing wronge with any going all the way either, that's great!
Siverwolf.
Last edited by Siverwolf (2008-11-18 21:29:01)
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Same with Siverwolf, nobody knows 'bout my 'differences'.
And same with Niktoma, GBLT? ... Like I said.. I'm thick-headed.
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Yeah, guess when you get past stage 4 the other half falls into place mostly.
Siverwolf.
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TBLG, that could work, no?
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Just like the "stages of grief" that is just a typical sequence. Not everyone goes through the same stages nor do they go through them in the same sequence. I was always aware of my differences and I never felt the need for pride - it's not like it's anything I did.
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Shawn13 wrote:
Naw, you're not thick headed. lol, GLBT is gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender.
And thanks for the responses . It's interesting from an otherkin perspective.
I remember when the Lesbians came first, the Transsexuals were involved, they lumped in the Asexuals, and the Questioning were included. It was like looking at a bowl of Alpha-bits.
Anyways, I wouldn't be surprised if there is a huge overlap between the two 'coming out' processes, the only difference would be what one is coming out with.
WVZ is right, people deal with these sorts of things differently, and the stages are more a rough guideline than a checklist. Like him, I've never gone through any sort of pride stage, to me, it would be like running around starting parades to celebrate the fact that I have ten toes, it's just a fact, nothing to be proud of.
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Well, I would say that is just about right...
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I tell everybody I know that I'm a were, they think I'm joking or whatnot, and I guess you could say I'm in the Pride stage, but will weres and other supernatural creatures ever be accepted or integrated into society, let alone widely beleived in??? It's not fair!!!
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I would say no to the coming out part and you should only tell a friend you completely trust or know is in the same situation.
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Hwy, why not be loud and proud about being different from the rest of the "human race"? What the heck is wrong with being a were or a therian! People are scared of not being accepted and such, but ever since I started telling people, I've actually GAINED friends!
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They're afraid of change, afraid of things they don't understand. And if you're proud, be proud, yell it as loud as you can. Some people are shy, paranoid, some people need to get ahold of themselves that, if there are those that hate and want to hurt them, there can be those that would save, and hide them. You can do what you want, just as long as you don't tell the really messed up people.
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Actually, I don't see where being a Werewolf could be a source of pride. You don't do anything to become one. You really don't have much choice. Now you might be proud of accomplishment as a Werewolf, but just being a Werewolf is nothing meritorious.
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Well, it could be celibratory as more of being something different, not of achievement.
And one thing I've noticed, if we're all different, wouldn't we all be the same in not being the same?
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LycanJayBoy wrote:
Well, it could be celibratory as more of being something different, not of achievement.
And one thing I've noticed, if we're all different, wouldn't we all be the same in not being the same?
One of my favorite quotes that I've come across in my various travels through the internet is:
You're special, you're different, just like everyone else.
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Yes, but that is why I am proud of being a werewolf. I try to be more different than anybody else. Is it a crime to be proud of what I am? People can be proud of who they are just for being themselves, why can't werewolves???
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Vancariad wrote:
Yes, but that is why I am proud of being a werewolf. I try to be more different than anybody else.
You sound more like you're proud to be a teenager if I'm honest
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If trying to be different is being like a teenager, then why do most teenagers try to be normal?
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Now my head hurts even more...
Thanks for that, Vancariad.
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Vancariad wrote:
I try to be more different than anybody else.
You don't need to try in order to be different, you already are in your own unique way.
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But part of me being me is striving to be weird. It's what make me unique, it is my difference. It is my whole being, striving to be as different as I can from most other people.
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